Hope was sexually molested at a young age. She didn’t know what sexual abuse was at that time so she couldn’t express herself. Silenced. Her abuser silenced her to secrecy with the consequence of punishment if she told anyone. Years later, she puts up her story with the hashtag “Me Too”.
This topic may seem too sensitive to some but it is something that has become prevalent and it’s about time it is dragged out from under the carpet.
Dear daughter/Son, you should know, not from a stranger, a friend, or the internet that once you’re better informed you stand a better chance to fight and overcome these predators.
We can’t trust anyone these days with you but yourself and what you are about to learn.
1) YOUR BODY BELONGS TO YOU.
Let Vagina be a Vagina and a Penis a Penis! Calling it any other name may create a false impression to you about your body. If by chance it happens that I will be uncomfortable using the anatomical names, I’ll go by calling it private parts, that way you’ll know what they are. You are in charge of your body and no one is allowed to touch your vagina or penis inappropriately in an unsafe manner.
2) SAFE TOUCHING UNSAFE TOUCHING.
Unsafe touching is when another person touches your private body inappropriately. Without an adult or parents being there or in a way that you’re not used to and causes you pain. There is also a safe touching, which is different as your private body will be touched by the Doctor or Paediatrician when you visit to check if you’re healthy. You wouldn’t be alone, and your parent(s) or a Chaperon will be there with you until you’re old enough to visit the Doctor without supervision;which makes this very different.
3) NO SECRETS.
Do you know what makes the abusers confident? The fact that they’ve threatened a child to secrecy and they’ll be in serious trouble when they report to an adult. And a child being naturally obedient will hardly tell anyone what they went through. Anyone who tells you to keep something away from your parents is not doing the right thing, no matter how little the information is, you should tell us.
5) HOW TO RESPOND.
It can be really heart-breaking to find out that your little one has been molested. It is natural to be filled with emotions and anger. It has been said that the most important thing is how to react to such information which may come bits by bits or when they become aware of what happened. It will be assuring to you dear one to know that you won’t get into trouble and the matter will be dealt with swiftly to ensure it doesn’t repeat itself.
4) TEACH WITH FUN FUN!!!
There are so many educative materials out there to help illustrate abuse scenarios specifically cut out for children in the form of videos and books. With these you’ll be better informed and nothing is much better than that. Click to find them here and here.